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Day 2 -self control

Joey brought up a good point yesterday about self control.As I got through no eating and no ciggarettes ,hey said wouldn't real self control be if you just had one. So today im smoking one ciggarette and eating one thing. However controlling ambition is defintely a little bit harder. Yesterday I was 50% succesful at getting myself to do everything I needed to but I kept looking for distraction.I had good intentions of going to bed early to wake up early but got to talking on the phone to someone speacial n then it was 3am. Self control is being able to do things in moderation.

Mid day

Not eating really is not difficult if you keep yourself busy ,however it makes me want a ciggarette more. Procrastination is also seeping in and fighting my self control. I realize they are direct opposities as self control sucks at first but feels really good after .the best way to stay on track is to assign times frames to tasks with rewards such as a texting break or 10 minute music jam out ,like I am currently hot tubbing ..awwww yea.

Self Control Mantra

I am fully in control of myself.

I have the power to choose my emotions and thoughts.

Self-control brings me inner strength and leads me to success.

I am in control of my reactions.

I am in charge of my behavior.

I am gaining control of my emotions.

I am the maser of my life.

Day by day my ability to control my feelings and thoughts is increasing.

Self-control is fun and pleasure.

A poem

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“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

 “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.”

― Lao Tzu

What is Self Control?

Self Control.                                                                                                                                          Self-control is the ability to control one's emotions, behavior, and desires in order to obtain some reward, or avoid some punishment. B.F. Skinner's Science and Human Behavior provides a survey of nine categories of self-control methods.^[31]

Physical restraint and physical aid

The manipulation of the environment to make some response easier to physically execute and others physically more difficult illustrates this principle. Things such as clapping one's hand over one's own mouth, placing one's hands in one's pockets to prevent fidgeting, and using a 'bridge' hand position to steady a pool shot all represent physical methods to affect behavior.^[32]

Changing the stimulus

Manipulating the occasion for behavior may change behavior as well. Removing distractions that induce undesired actions or adding a prompt to induce it are examples. Hiding temptation and reminders are two more.^[33]

Depriving and satiating

One may manipulate one's own behavior by affecting states of deprivation or satiation. By skipping a meal before a free dinner one may more effectively capitalize on the free meal. By eating a healthy snack beforehand the temptation to eat free "junk food" is reduced.^[34]

Manipulating emotional conditions

Going for a 'change of scene' can remove emotional stimuli, as may rehearsing injustice to motivate a strong response later.^[35]

Treating an activity as "work" or "fun" can have an effect on the difficulty of self-control.^[36]

Using aversive stimulation

Setting an alarm clock to awake ourselves later is a form of aversive control. By doing this we arrange something that will only be escapable by doing things (turning off the clock) which tend to awaken ourselves.^[35]

Drugs

The use of self-administered drugs allows us to simulate changes in our conditioning history. The ingestion of caffeine allows us to simulate a state of wakefulness which may be useful for various reasons.^[37]

Operant conditioning

The use of a token economy, or other methods or techniques unique to operant conditioning may be seen as a special form of self-control. It can take great self-control to stay off drugs or to stop smoking.

]Punishment

Self-punishment of responses would include the arranging of punishment contingent upon undesired responses. This might be seen in the behavior of whipping oneself which some monks and religious persons do. This is different from aversive stimulation in that, for example, the alarm clock generates escape from the alarm, while self-punishment presents stimulation after the fact to reduce the probability of future behavior.^[37]

Punishment is more like conformity than self-control because with self-control there needs to be an internal drive, not an external source of punishment that makes the person want to do something. There is external locus of control which is similar to determinism and there is internal locus of control which is similar to free will. With a learning system of punishment the person does not make their decision based upon what they want, rather they base it on the external factors. When you use a negative reinforcement you are more likely to influence their internal decisions and allow them to make the choice on their own whereas with a punishment the person will make their decisions based upon the consequences and not exert self-control. The best way to learn self-control is with free will where people are able to perceive they are making their own choices.^[38.                                                      "Doing something else"

Skinner noted that various philosophies and religions exemplified this principle by instructing believers to love their enemies.^[39] When we are filled with rage or hatred we might control ourselves by 'doing something else' or more specifically something that is incompatible with our response.

 

Self Control Day 1

Self Control.
     I was not to happy when I pulled this out of the box as my first value to focus on. I think it's definitely a sign though and couldn't be more appropriate for a time in my life when I couldn't get myself out of bed to live. I made bad decisions or just ran away from the things I should have done and blamed it on my depression but what it really comes down to is having the self control to be able to do them. I think if you can have self control its one of those values that will allow you to do anything you want, however in today's society it is probably the one value were lacking the most. Everything for us is instant and accessible and there are no punishments for the things we do that immediately effect us so we just don't care, and that's how we ended up here where we all are unhappy with ourselves. Then I rethought about self control and how I didn't want to focus on this first but maybe this is what is needed in order to be mentally strong enough to stick with this values journey. I think one of the hardest things we can learn in life is to fully embrace commitment.

So my plan is to kick start this with bodily self control to mentally control my body. So today I will not be eating, smoking, and hopefully sleeping, I will be drinking large quantities of water and exercising at least three hours.  I did however wake up at 11am but that just shows how bad I need some self control.